One of the hallmarks of a good negotiator or a good diplomat is that both parties leave the table feeling that they have gotten something. True, they may have had to compromise and give, but in the end, a true victory must have been earned by both parties.
In the case of asymmetric relationships, such as orgasm control or chastity, both parties have to GAIN something in order for the arrangement to be successful. However, what they gain does not have to be equal, or even what they initially expect. There are certain things that could be of benefit for the man, while some could be more beneficial for the woman. This is my take on this.
What is in this for a man?
· More Intimacy
· More connection
· The knowledge that he is pleasing his woman
· Increased pleasure due to sexual energy
· The satisfaction of working hard for a goal
· Orgasms, when offered, are stronger