Victoria's Gift to Me.

From the first post:

The woman accepts and acknowledges the man’s service, taking control of the man’s orgasms, providing the man with opportunities to serve her, expecting to be served properly and providing stimulation or reminders as she considers appropriate to manage his desire. These three things are the woman’s gifts to the man.

On today's post I want to go over the following parts of the above statement:

• provide the man with opportunities to serve her
• providing stimulation
• providing reminders

These are some of the gifts that the woman can give her man. The main purpose of these gifts is to manage the man's desire, which as discussed before is key in making the game a satisfying experience for him. 

GIFTS OF SERVICE

This may sound counter intuitive, but I already expressed my opinion on it on the previous post. For the man in chastity, serving his woman is the best opportunity he has to gain favor in her eyes and perhaps get closer to experiencing sexual release. The opportunity to serve her, is a chance to make her happy, which is a deeply ingrained desire in men. When the woman provides this opportunity to the man, she should see it and treat it as a gift she is giving him and should expect or perhaps even demand that the gift be received with gratitude and enthusiasm. If it is not, perhaps one of the other gifts may be in order. 

One of the problems women may have with orgasm control is that they feel guilty for asking their men to serve them. This is caused by looking at service from the wrong perspective. When seen as a gift and an opportunity for him to improve his status, the woman can relax and enjoy the service without guilt. 

USAGE:

Since these gifts are the main avenue for the man to serve the woman, the woman should be liberal in their use. Offer gifts of service every single day, whether or not there are other gifts accompanying it. Gifts of service can be further subdivided into personal service and chores, like mentioned in the last post. Personal service includes things that are done specifically to or for the woman, chores are acts of service that are not directly related to the woman. 

GIFTS TO STIMULATE

The man in chastity is being controlled by his desire. When this desire is high, both the man and the woman get to enjoy the benefits. The man, because of his altered pleasurable state, and the woman, because the man does anything to please her. The goal here for the woman is to maintain the man's desire as elevated as possible for as long as possible. To do this, the woman can use any means at her disposal to excite the man sexually without allowing an orgasm to take place. This is called teasing, and can take many forms. It is also called tease and denial, because the ultimate goal of orgasm is not achieved. 

USAGE:

These gifts are used to increase or maintain the man’s level of sexual desire. These gifts can be used at any time to enhance the man’s desire to work hard to attain release. This could range from something small that brings the man an erection, to bringing him to the edge of orgasm before stopping. This type of gift can be used to “convince” the man to serve and to maintain his motivation.

GIFTS TO REMIND

One category of gift that sometimes is not really understood is the gift of the reminder. These are usually simple gifts (but can be as elaborate as you want) that do not really benefit the woman (like gifts of service), or give direct pleasure to the man (like gifts of stimulation) but are designed to remind the man of his position in the game and of his need to follow the woman’s lead.

USAGE:

These gifts range from things he has to wear (or not), things he has to do (or not), and even things he has to let you do to him. The things that serve this purpose the best are things that he would not normally do, but that are only done because she asks. Accompanying these gifts with words that reinforce the male’s sense of belonging, enhances the effect.

These three types of gifts can be used alone or in combination as determined by the woman to keep the game in a proper balance. I only described the gifts in general terms, but at a later time, if this blog continues, I plan to cover each category individually with examples of the things we have done and others that can be done, as well as ideas to develop your own gifts.

I didn't cover today the following gifts, but they are important as well and deserve their own post:

The Gift of Acknowledgment

The Gift of Control

The Gift of Orgasm

I am also formatting the rules for the first orgasm control game and I will post it soon.

See you soon.